Why We All Need Therapy: 9 Reminders Even “Normal People” Need
How does a pastor’s kid with a great childhood end up spending hours in a counselor’s office trying to make sense of the reality in front of him? I never imagined that I would be paying money to a professional to help me work through inner turmoil. Where had these issues come from? How had I gotten to this point?
As a church kid from upstate New York, I had a very positive upbringing. I was raised by godly parents who deeply loved Jesus and led me, my brother, and my sister in the ways of the Lord. I lived my childhood in a safe and happy home and I have no memories of abuse or assault happening inside or outside of my home.How does a pastor’s kid with a great childhood end up spending hours in a counselor’s office trying to make sense of the reality in front of him? Click To Tweet
So what had caused me to seek out counseling? To put it plainly, I was confused. I was confused when fellow Christians wounded me and people I trusted caused me deep hurt and pain. I was confused about ministry. Things people were doing, some intentionally and others unintentionally, were hurting my heart. I was confused about my dreams. I was happily married with my first child on the way, yet I felt disappointed that many of my dreams had not yet come to fruition. Add to my confusion the relational challenges I faced at work because of the brokenness that we all carry, and I was really struggling.
There I was, heading into my late 20’s, spending hours talking with a paid professional about all of the distress and disillusionment I was feeling. I felt like I should be able to sort through my own issues, but instead I found myself in a counselor’s office. I felt like I couldn’t make sense of my life or my emotions, but I am so thankful that I found someone who could.Working through your questions, issues, and wounds is a journey and going down the road to healing and wholeness is a sign of strength, not weakness. Click To Tweet
Let me say this as clearly as possible: there is no shame in seeking professional help to deal with issues you are struggling with. Steven Furtick, the founder and lead pastor of Elevation Church, talks about how he saw a therapist for “preventive counseling” weekly for a three-year season. When he told his church about this, and that they were paying for it, they gave him a standing ovation*.
There are many concerns that come up in our hearts that can be addressed through relationships with trusted friends or mentors and those are great people to surround yourself with. However, there are other heart issues that require the help of people with credentials, training, and experience in dealing with deeper wounds. Don’t be afraid or ashamed of reaching out for the help of a qualified professional. Working through your questions, issues, and wounds is a journey and going down the road to healing and wholeness is a sign of strength, not weakness.Let me say this as clearly as possible: there is no shame in seeking professional help to deal with issues you are struggling with. Click To Tweet
The healing of the heart is a lifelong pursuit. There will be seasons of life where we focus on it more intently than at other times, but I believe we should continually pursue counseling and inner healing throughout our lives. Emotional health is worth the time, effort, and resources that it takes. Remember, seeking help doesn’t mean that you’re damaged goods or that you can’t function or be used by God until you’re completely healed. Often walking through life’s difficulties is the very thing that qualifies us to be used by God to minister to others.
For those presently dealing with insecurity caused by a wound from the past, I want you to know that there is freedom available for you! I recommend finding a trusted counselor or support group that can help walk you through truths like these:
– Your wound is real, but it is not your identity. (Isaiah 6:3)
– Jesus came to give you abundant life. (John 10:10)
– God goes before you, walks beside you, and comes behind you. (Isaiah 52:12)
– God fights on your behalf. (Deuteronomy 1:30)
– God is a God of restoration. (1 Peter 5:10)
– God is a God of forgiveness & healing. (Psalms 103:2-3)
– God will never leave you. (Hebrews 13:5)
– Your future is full of hope and promise. (Jeremiah 31:17)
– God can use your painful experience for good. (Genesis 50:20)
Your insecurities, pain, hurts, and fears are not random; they have a root source. Your healing journey does not mean that you are going on a witch hunt; rather, it is the beginning of uncovering the wounds that are perhaps under the surface, some of which you will need help to uncover and understand so that deep healing can come.Often walking through life’s difficulties is the very thing that qualifies us to be used by God to minister to others. Click To Tweet
Have you ever sought out professional counseling for issues needing healing in your life? If not, consider what has held you back and ask the Lord for one step He would have you take today toward your healing. One practical step could be signing up for my interactive online course, Become a More Confident Worship Leader, where I will explore roots of insecurity and dig deeper into healing truths like the ones I’ve touched on here. For more information or to sign up, click here.
Huge thanks to my friend Jordan Vanderplate for letting me use this photo from Pahoa, Hawaii. Check out more of his work here.